I love mixing traditionally feminine clothing with something more masculine - like this flowy blush colored skirt and leather jacket. I think most of us have struggled with developing their style and the feeling that you have to fit in some kind of a box. I have felt that I have to choose whether I want to be the cool girl with ripped jeans, the flower fairy with wavy hair and floral prints, the classy lady with an overly polished look, or the sporty girl with an over sized hoodie and fresh Nikes. Then I realized that you actually can transform into all of them if you'd like. People tend to incline towards a particular style, but don't be afraid to mix it up every once in a while!
For the last five years I've thought that it is vital to look a certain way in order to be taken seriously. That you can't have pastel colored hair, tattoos, or any piercings other than on your ears. I've actually considered coloring my (already colored) blonde hair a darker shade or cutting them shorter, not to look like Cher from "Clueless" and to be more "professional," but in reality I don't want to do that. Thinking about these hypothetical problems I didn't actually have, made me see that there is really no point of trying to please everyone, because you'll never succeed. Everyone keeps telling you that you'll regret making untraditional changes in your appearance, but will you really? For example, I've always wanted to have pastel lilac or pink hair and I'm gonna go for it this week. How do you feel? Is there anything you have been wanting to do, but haven't dared to so far? This can be a tricky topic, because in many areas of life, you do have these unwritten rules of self presentation, like if you are a lawyer or a CEO on Wall Street. But then again, could it change, and is the younger generation always going to be more liberal than their predecessors?
An author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie wrote a piece titled “Why Can’t A Smart Woman Love Fashion?" and I liked this paragraph in particular:
"I had learned a lesson about Western culture: Women who wanted to be taken seriously were supposed to substantiate their seriousness with a studied indifference to appearance. For serious women writers in particular, it was better not to dress well at all, and if you did, then it was best to pretend that you had not put much thought into it. If you spoke of fashion, it had to be either with apology or with the slightest of sneers".
Mulle meeldib kanda naiselikke riideid koos millegi maskuliinsemaga - näiteks nagu see puudrikarva voogav seelik koos nahkjakiga. Usun, et enamik meist on mingil eluhetkel maadelnud oma stiili leidmisega ning tundnud, et peavad või tahavad kuhugi kasti sobituda. Mina olen tundnud, et peab ilmtingimata valima, kas sa tahad olla lahe lõhkiste teksadega rebel, pikkade laineliste juustega lillelaps, superviimistletud välimusega classy lady või suure pusa ja uute Nike'idega sporditšikk. Millalgi sain ma aga aru, et ma võin olla nad kõik olenevalt tujust. Ära karda katsetada!
Skirt: Forever 21
Shoes, sunglasses, nose ring: Primark
Leather jacket: Zara
Photography: Oliver Tomson